Here’s a little update on how Melody has been doing with her separation anxiety. This past Sunday I told Melody that she gets 2 kisses, a hug, and a good-bye, then we were going to the service, and coming back to pick her up. We do get pagers in case anything happens and they need us to come (I don’t think they’ve ever had to use the pagers before), but I left service a few minutes early to check on her anyhow. I need to keep my sanity somehow. She was fine, but because they had changed the room around, and she was standing on the loft, she could see over the short wall and saw me when I peeked in. I was going to head back out. She only cried for about 5 minutes and then needed someone to hold her, and she was fine. I’m glad to hear that.
On Monday, Jen and Aaron volunteered to babysit so that Norm and I could go out (will blog later). She did cry when we left, but for like 2 minutes or so. It helped that she LOVES Jen and Aaron, and she was at home. I’m really hoping this will be over soon because I’m so not used to having her cry.
It’s funny because there’s an article in the current issue of Parenting magazine about this subject. So just when you thought your child skipped the whole separation anxiety thing, they freak out one day when you leave to go somewhere. What? But you’ve been to this church nursery, and you’ve seen these people who take care of you for almost a year!
This was the scene at the church 2 weeks ago, and then again last week. Melody had a total meltdown after I left her during the 1st hour. We usually don’t go to 1st hour because she’s just getting up, but she got up early and so I dropped her off. She’s not too familiar with the caregivers there, but it has NEVER been a problem before. So apparently, when I went to talk with the Children’s Ministry director, Carol, Melody was just crying and crying. It also didn’t help that she wasn’t feeling well. I figure it was just a combo of all those things…waking early, don’t know the caregivers, and being under the weather. But then she did it again the past week too. She saw me leaving like I usually do, and she would not let me go. Anyhow, I was relieved to read the article which talked about how as children move into a new stage in life, they sometimes do this. I think they said that all children go through this, but some just express it more than others. Well, I left her there crying, and she was still sobbing when I came back. We’ll try again on Sunday I guess.
We’re actually at the library right now, but Norm took Melody in to do storytime so that she can have some time away from me, which she’ll need to get used to once the baby is born. I’m sure she will be a great helper and will love the baby, but she’s had Mommy all to herself for 24 months so far…and at 27 months will have to share. I already know that she will demand some kind of attention from me, because I can see how she looks at me when I’m playing with my nephew Baby Sam.
Storytime is almot over, so we’ll be off to visit “Too-Too” (what Melody calls my brother Eric because in Chinese he’s called Kow-fu, but she can’t say her Fs)…if he’s awake. =p